Men love their Man Cave – whether it’s in the garage, basement or a room in the house. When Mom passed away, my brother, Harvey, moved in to help care for our step-father Paul who has been deaf all his life and has macular degeneration.
To talk to Paul, who’s nearly 90, you have to sign real close to his face so he can see. Paul still cooks all of his meals but needs help with mowing the grass and driving to the bank, grocery store and the deaf club.
I’m so very grateful that my brother has taken on this task to help our step-father live his life as close to normal as possible. Paul is grateful too because otherwise he would be living in a nursing home without anyone knowing how to speak to him in sign language.
It has been somewhat challenging for two grown men to live together. They have their own ways! Know what I mean?
Their den sits right in the middle of the house, and you have to walk through it to get to the kitchen from the bedrooms. The den also contains the door to the backyard, which gets used constantly because of their little Chihuahua, Mickey.
Don’t kid yourself to think just because people are deaf that they are quiet. They are NOT. As a matter of fact, they are probably noisier because they cannot hear how loud they are! Well, Paul makes a lot of noise. My brother always has to turn up the volume on the TV to cover the banging and clanging in the kitchen and the slamming of the backdoor.
While Paul is happy to have someone in the home so he doesn’t feel so lonely, both men feel a loss of privacy. So to solve both problems of noise and privacy, my brother and I came up with a plan to convert the front room into Harvey’s Man Cave!
We completely overhauled the room into a comfortable man cave. Unlike the den, it’s off the beaten path so it’s quiet for Harvey and now Paul feels like he’s gained back his privacy. It’s a Win-Win!
Paul depends on my brother for most everything but Harvey encourages him to do things on his own to help him continue his independence.
Now that my brother (an electrician) is playing the “Father” role in caring for Paul, in honor of him I took photos of his electrical switches, plug-ins and breakers to spell out MAN CAVE. He is a loyal fan of Sunburst Gifts so he will be reading this without knowing beforehand he would be the subject of today’s blog post.
Happy Father’s Day, my dear brother. When I count my blessings, I count you twice! I love you very much. xoloveee
The spelling of Man Cave using your father’s or brother’s everyday work items or items related to their favorite hobbies gives a personal touch to this gift. It’s a surefire way to surprise him with a one-of-a-kind Father’s Day or birthday gift!
I don’t care how poor a man is; if he has family, he’s rich. – Colonel Potter, M*A*S*H